8 Reasons Smiling is Good for You

Someone once said, “Smile – It’s the second best thing you can do with your lips.” (Kissing being the first, of course.) And it’s true. With one simple movement, you can change your day, someone’s life, and even the way your body functions. Don’t keep your smiles to yourself. There are many delightful things to be attained from one little smile.

1. Instant beauty – even without makeup

When you smile, the muscles you use to perform the action lift the face. This makes you look younger and more attractive. In addition to that, smiling gives you a positive air that is appealing to people.

2. Elevates your mood

No matter how sad you feel, smiling will often times make you feel better. This happens because when you smile, your body releases endorphins, other natural pain killers, and serotonin.

3. Keeps you positive

It is hard for you to be sad when everyone around you is happy and smiling. Add to this the natural high you get when you smile. How can you not have a positive attitude with all the happiness flowing through your mind and body?

4. Stress reliever

The happy hormones and pain killers released when you smile help relax your body and mind. So the next time you feel anxious and stressed, just stop what you’re doing, take a few deep breaths, and smile.

5. Easy way to health

Your immune system functions better when your body is calm and relaxed. Smiling can help prevent heart disease by lowering blood pressure. Your digestion and blood sugar levels may also benefit from smiling. And I don’t know if you’ve noticed this, but smiling can help make workouts more fun and bearable.

6. Aura of success

The positivity and happiness that you get from smiling contributes to the way people view you. If you smile, you appear more confident and successful to other people.

7. Makes you approachable

People are more drawn to you if you are smiling and happy, rather than when you are sad and frowning. You will look more approachable and friendly. You will have a higher chance of landing projects, getting a job, and making new friends.

8. Good kind of contagious

A smile is one of the things that I wouldn’t mind catching from someone else. And it’s a good thing that smiling is contagious. Did you notice that seeing a happy scene on TV, a successful friend, or a smiling person/group also makes you smile?

Life is too short for frowns and negativity. When you find yourself feeling down, find ways to make yourself smile. There are so many reasons and ways in this life to turn that frown upside down. Embrace the habit of smiling and feel the changes in your everyday life. Now, think about it: when was the last time you smiled?

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Stop Saying I Don't Know

Do you hear yourself saying "I don't know" to the point where you feel like people think you're a dull, blank slate? Many times, people fall into this habit out of laziness or apathy. How do you overcome the habit now that you are feeling more vivacious and engaged? This article will provide you with some inspiration!

Steps 

1. How often do you say it? Keep a journal or log of how often you use this phrase. It doesn't have to be elaborate--just somehow mark every time. The back on a notebook, in a notepad, or whatever works for you. #*The idea is not to somehow feel terrible about yourself; by knowing how often you do this behavior, you can both become more aware of your words as well as track your successful progress over time. #*Remember: focus on awareness of this habit...you do not have to punish yourself in order to break this pattern.

2. Resolve to find a replacement phrase for now. Tell yourself that you will not say "I don't know" - unless you have listened carefully and really do not know. Instead, try saying something - anything - else. It might be helpful to come up with several different words to say instead, to avoid slipping into making any of the replacement words becoming a habit as well. Some examples include: "Hmmm." Or, "Not sure." Or, "Maybe". Or, "What do you think?" Or, "I would like to hear you in order to think a little more". In the latter case, asking a question back to the person can cause them to think a little more about what they've said, buying you some thinking time too!

3. Recognize that it is perceived as lazy because it is lazy. The person you're talking to will know instantly that you simply don't want to think about what they've said, or that you're not even interested in talking to them. Once you say "I dunno," you've killed the conversation. Where does the other person go with that? Does s/he explain whatever it is that "you dunno"? You would find it rude, probably. Just as rude as shutting down the conversation with "I dunno." 

4. Listen actively. Instead of thinking about other things, staring off into space, or figuring out what you want to talk about next, try really listening to your conversation partner. Ask a question or two about what s/he's saying - anything is good. Try, "Is that right?" when you notice that the other person seems to be waiting for you to say something. In addition, consider asking questions that help you learn. For instance: 

• "So what do you think about the plot of the movie?" "I'm not sure I understand why X chose to do Y. Did you catch that?"
• "What do you know about that cutie in Calculus?" "Not much..didn't he say he was from Nebraska?"
• "Why was Tamara so upset last night?" "Did you ask her? She ran right by me!"
• "Edward, what did you get for question 3?" "I had trouble, Miss Sausan. I had trouble understanding what Hamlet meant here..." (You show that you've thought about the work, and your teacher will likely not give you a hard time. Listen close to the sigh of relief from other students around you!

5. Think about what you're being asked. If you don't have an answer immediately, rather than saying "I don't know," instead, just pause. Think. If you're really flummoxed, beg your conversation partner's pardon by saying something like, "You know what - I don't think I ever really thought about it until now." At least this lets your partner know you heard him or her, and that you are actively thinking about the question rather than just automatically popping out with "I dunno."

6. Recant it if it comes out. "Recant" means "take it back". And don't get flustered over it. If you blurt out the unthinking "I dunno," just immediately say, "Wait... I think... Let me think about that for a second." Just take it back. Your conversation partner will be very generous about it, especially if s/he thinks you want to consider whatever it is that s/he was saying. Nothing is better in a conversation than making the other person feel as if you think whatever they're talking about is very important and worth thinking over.

7. Accept that responding to people with "I don't know" is a bad habit and will take some time to break. Don't be too tough on yourself if you find yourself still saying it from time to time. 

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10 Ways to Be a Gentleman

A gentleman is a considerate man with high standards of proper behavior and refined manners. Being a gentleman has nothing to do with social status, wealth or age. A gentleman is basically a man who treats others with respect and also strives to gain their respect.

Learn the ways to be a gentleman. Here is this :

01. Always open doors

This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.

02. Be prepared to ask questions or make statements of courtesy, like "may I help you?", or "let me get that for you", or "I'll take care of that".

03. Help with her seat

If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.

04. Don't swear. Ever. Don't speak of vulgar matter. If it's too difficult to stop cursing all-together, tone it down a lot.

05. Give girls a little extra respect. Don't be obsequious, but neofeminism has kind of gotten rid of some basic politeness that they'll appreciate, such as opening car/building doors, etc. Don't put every girl on a pedestal (we're all human), but they'll really appreciate it if you do them favors, like giving up your seat on the bus even though they're not carrying anything heavy.

06. Don't talk about yourself much. On the other hand, girls like to know a little bit about you so they can understand what you are talking about sometimes. In addition to making you a much more desirable conversationalist, it will make you seem more mysterious to not share too much, which many women find attractive. Get a basic idea of what's going on in music, sports, and politics.

07. Pay attention to the fact that the world is more threatening for girls: they're automatically targets at night or in bad neighborhoods. Walk her to her door (or car) if at all possible. It doesn't matter how strong she actually is, if you're a girl people will go at you first, whereas by virtue of being male you're safer. If your girl has to park far away from her dorm or home, always offer to drive her to and from your destination. She will appreciate how caring you are about her safety.

08. Remember to keep doing nice things for your girlfriend when you're around her. If she's carrying something, pick it up when she puts it down and always kindly let her know by saying "oh, let me get that for you", whatever the object is. Remember, being selfish is not attractive. If you are watching television with your girl and you know she likes a particular show or sporting event, leave it there. She will appreciate that little bit of selflessness more than you know.

09. Stand up for your girl. Don't go around punching everyone who looks at her sideways, but if anyone's giving her looks or unwanted advances, intervene. Put your arm around her shoulder and move yourselves away, or go to her and speak up for her. The physical contact reassures her and lets the aggressor know that he's got to deal with both of you.

10. Ask if she needs anything

This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.

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5 Simple Tips on Choose an Engagement Ring

Shopping for an engagement ring doesn't have to be a dreaded experience. With the right amount of knowledge about what to look for in a ring, coupled with your excitement about asking the girl of your dreams to marry you, this can be an enjoyable exercise matching your newly discovered ring expertise with the money you've got available to spend. In this article, you'll learn the most important things to consider when choosing an engagement ring for your beloved.

1. Be familiar with the terms that you'll be confronted with when shopping for a ring. Giving the impression that you know what you're looking for will increase your confidence and help you to ward off any disreputable ring sellers. Here are some of the terms to be familiar with:

• Band: The band is the circular part of the ring that sits around the finger. It's usually made from gold, silver, or platinum, although it can be made from some other combination of metals.
• Setting: The setting refers to the piece that holds the gemstone in place, which is attached to the band. The setting can be "pronged" or "invisible".
• Gemstone: The gemstone is the feature piece of the ring, usually a diamond. Occasionally, this is facetiously referred to as a "rock". The bigger the stone, the better according to many, although it's more important to go with your girlfriend's personality and preferences rather than assuming this. The gemstone doesn't have to be a diamond (see below) but reasons for deviating from this should be good ones!
• The 4 C's: These are the carat, color, clarity and cut of the gemstone (usually a diamond).

2. Choose a good jeweler. The main thing to remember here is that expensive doesn't necessarily equate with being the ideal jeweler. Look for a store that makes you feel comfortable, where the staff are pleasant and helpful, and where the advice they provide gels with you. As well, be sure to look somewhere that fits within your budget range; this avoids the inevitable disappointment at finding something that would be "just perfect if it didn't cost so much". If you can, check that the jeweler is registered with a society, association, or organization that regulates, certifies, etc., jewelers, such as the National Association of Goldsmiths in the UK

• Ask around your married friends or your family for recommendations on a good, trusted jeweler. Obviously, this will mean they'll know what you're up to, although you can just say that you want to buy a nice piece of jewelery.
• Go shopping together
  If you're happier proposing first and shopping for a ring with your fiancée, take her preferences for the store into account as well. This is easier where you'd prefer that her choice and tastes are fully accounted for; it's just as romantic, but it means you'll need to provide a mock-ring for the engagement, and explain to her that you'd rather the two of you choose the ring together.
• Another thing to discuss with the jeweler is the ability to custom design the wedding ring to match the engagement ring. You might like to think ahead to this eventuality because it can be a stunning combination to have both rings matching well together.

3. Find out her tastes. If you're purchasing the ring without her, choosing one will be will more difficult where the ring is a surprise because obviously you won't be able to ask her. Do keep in mind that nowadays, many women prefer to be part of a joint decision to purchase a ring, so if you find it really difficult to know her style and taste, provide a temporary ring and tell her that you'll choose the real one together. Some of the ways to try and work out her taste include: 

• Asking her about rings in general. If you're going past a jewelery store pretend to be interested in a watch. Then casually drop a comment about the styles of rings, saying you like a certain type and asking her what she likes. If you're very good, she won't notice the ruse. If you're not so good, she'll probably tweak but she still won't know when! Other ways of getting her to talk about engagement rings is to make a comment about a friend's engagement ring and to ask her preferences at the same time.
• Ask her family for ideas. This will depend on whether or not you want them to know before she does, of course.
• Another ruse is to have her friends take her into a store to ask her "just for fun". You'll need to have absolute trust in them to keep quiet and to pull this off. It's not a good option if you'd prefer to keep it quiet until the moment of the proposal.
• Sum up her tastes from the clothes she wears and her existing jewelery. Your in the best position to know whether she likes plain, fancy, patterns, large or small fashion statements. Is she traditional, classic, contemporary, or way out there? Use what you do know about her fashion preferences to your own advantage.
• Is she an impassioned supporter of Fair Trade and human rights? Be sure to look for recycled gold and conflict-free diamonds as part of your choosing process.

4.  Fix your budget. There is a tradition that holds that a man should spend two months of his salary on the engagement ring. Whether or not you do this will depend on your wish to conform to tradition. What does matter is that you select a ring according to what you can afford, so have a good idea of this amount before searching. 

• Let your jeweler know your price range so that he or she can show you a variety of rings that fall within that range.
• Keep in mind the possibility of having an engagement ring customized. Talk to the jeweler about the price options, the timing, and the styles that are possible.

5. Know your diamonds. Diamonds tend to be the traditional engagement ring choice, because they are enduring, and match everything. Only deviate from a diamond if you know that your girlfriend loves another stone much, much more, or has voiced her intense dislike of diamonds. When choosing a diamond, be aware of the "Four C's", as follows: 

• Carat: This refers to the unit measurement of the diamond, and refers to weight (not size). Every carat has 100 points. Engagement rings are usually 1 carat but the ring you choose will obviously depend on your budget. A 1 carat ring on a limited budget may not rate very highly in other areas, taking away from its overall beauty.
• Color: The color of diamonds varies considerably and most people prefer a very white colored diamond for an engagement ring. Colors are graded from D (colorless and rare) and most good quality diamonds will be around F and H and grades D to I are acceptable to buy as they are almost identical when mounted.
• Clarity: Being natural, there will be imperfections in the diamond. The less imperfections, the greater the clarity and the more light is reflected from the diamond, causing it to "sparkle". Naturally, more clarity increases its value. Perfectly flawless diamonds with no internal flaws or surface blemishes are very hard to find as they are extremely rare. Fewer flaws in a diamond result in greater brilliance as more light is reflected^.
  • The scale used to grade clarity goes from F1 for a flawless diamond, to VVS1 and VVS2 for very slight inclusions, to VS1 and VS2 for very slight inclusions, SI1 and SI2 for slight inclusions and I1, I2 and I3 for imperfect diamonds.
  • Diamonds are magnified by 10 times to judge their clarity so very slight imperfections are difficult to see with the naked eye. This means that there is a range of diamonds available even for more modest budgets. If you can see a mark without magnification, however, think carefully before you buy.
• Cut: There are different ways to cut a diamond, and the type of cut impacts the sparkle of the diamond. The cut that produces the most sparkle is the round (or brilliant) cut, while radiant and princess cuts are good at hiding flaws. Other cuts including square, emerald, pear, marquise, cushion, Asscher, and heart-shaped.The oval shape looks best with larger stones, and looks bigger than the round cut

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Celebrate Christmas on a Budget

 

Having Christmas on a budget isn't always easy but there are things you can do to ease the financial burden and still enjoy Christmas without cutting down on quality. Follow the suggested steps here and ensure that your Christmas is a time for giving as much has you have rather than what you don't have.

Steps

1. 
   
   
   Set a Christmas budget in advance. Before the frenzy of Christmas time descends, work out how much you're able and prepared to spend on Christmas festivities, gifts, and catering. The amount will depend on how much you've already saved, how much you can set aside from current funds, and how much you can spare in the weeks leading up to Christmas. If you start early enough, you'll have more leeway to save a bit more. 
2. Talk to family about the costs and gifts. Sit down and make decisions about limits on gifts. This is especially important in large families where the costs of buying a gift for every member of the family can soon add up. Seek agreement that you'll only spend so much per person.
   
   * If you're really strapped, a decision to only give gifts to the children can sometimes ease budget constraints.
   * One way to spend less on presents is to have each family member bring one present and then to Play the "Goofy Gift Exchange" Christmas Game or Play Santa's Present.
   * Remind everyone that thoughtfully chosen gifts are more important than expensive ones.
3.  Hold a "catch-up" Christmas. If your family overdid the spending last Christmas and your budget is still really stretched, consider not spending for one Christmas. One non-spending Christmas will ensure that your budget catches up. There are still a lot of things you can do to celebrate Christmas without spending money:
   
   * Make a nice meal, not an expensive one. Look at old cookbook recipes for thrifty Christmas cooking.
   * Make homemade gifts from recycled and inexpensive items.
   * Don't buy any new decorations and either use a live tree in a planter from your garden, or an artificial tree kept in your storage.
4. Take advantage of sales during the year. Sales closer to Christmas can be worth marking on your calendar, such as end-of-summer sales, sales after Thanksgiving, etc.
   
   * Take advantage of the post-Christmas sales to start buying gifts, cards, wrapping paper, decorations, tableware, etc., for next Christmas. Be sure to put these somewhere that they're easier to find and use when Christmas comes around.
   * Keep a list of whose gifts you've already purchased, so that you don't double up on gifts.
   * Keep an eye on auction sites and overstocked goods sites for bargains during the lead-up to Christmas. And use price comparison websites to make sure you are paying at the best price.
   * Use any rebates, coupons, discounts, or promotions that you have access to. If you're not sure, ask.
5. Make your own cards. Recycle last year's cards and turn them into this year's cards. Simply cut out the decorative part of the card and attach it to plain cardboard. Use markers to decorate. Do the same for gift tags.
   
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   o Make snowmen Christmas cards
   o Make a Christmas tree pop-up card (Robert Sabuda method)
   o Make Christmas cards from wrapping paper
   o Create a Christmas card using Microsoft Publisher
   * Make your own labels. Printable gift labels on the internet or making you own and printing them off can save pounds or dollars on gift tags. 
6. Make your own Christmas gifts. Use the skills you're best at, such as knitting, crocheting, woodwork, sewing, decoupage, putting together a basket, cooking, etc. A small selection of ideas:
   
   * Make spice hot mats
   * Make a gift voucher for your parents for Christmas
   
   
7.  Make your own Christmas decorations. There are many nifty Christmas decorations that can be made from items already in the home. Here are a few suggestions to get you started: 
8. Cut out unnecessary items. There are a lot of items that aren't needed and are unnecessary waste at Christmas time. Save your money and finite resources by not including them in your Christmas celebrations. Examples include:
   # Ribbons, bows, fancy tape, stickers, etc., are usually tossed away.
   # Plastic tablecloths with Christmas designs. Either use plain colored tablecloths from your linen cupboard, or go without.
   # Don't spend massive amounts of money on outside lights, keep it to a minimum and inside lights should be left off at all times when no-one is in the room, this saves on energy bills.
9. Store your Christmas decorations well after use. This will mean that there is no need to replace them year after year. If you look after your decorations, they will look after you! 
10. Buy an artificial Christmas tree (preferably in the sales) and look after it. A real tree costs money every year, both in terms of purchasing it and fuel needed to collect it. An artificial tree is a one-off cost. An artificial pre-lit tree can also save money in lights and if one bulb goes, the others will carry on working, obviously depending on which tree.
11. Get everyone to pitch in with both resources and effort. If there are people coming to your house for Christmas dinner, assign them tasks to help out. At the very least, ask them if they want to bring anything; this takes pressure off you and generally people do want to bring something and contribute in meaningful ways.

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11 Tips on How to Forget Your Ex

 

Most people will at some point in their life have to deal with a breakup with a partner and the emotions that comes with it. Sometimes it takes a while to get back on your feet and other times you feel better after a shorter period of time. It all depends on what type of person you are and how serious the relationship was. Here are some advice on how to make this period as bearable as possible.

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Scented Candles
• Bath Oils
• Bubble Baths
• Facial Gift Certificates
• Health Club Memberships
• Massage Gift Certificates
• Movie Rentals
• Sports Tickets 
• Chocolates

1. Talk to your friends.
   
2. Get clear with your ex. If there are a lot of unresolved issues involving money, possessions, etc., clear them up.
   
3. Distract yourself. Movies, sightseeing, outdoor activities, games and a good book are all possibilities.
   
4. Take up a new hobby or enroll in some classes.
   
5. Exercise - put your mind on something new, like training for a marathon, improving your tennis game, or working on those abs.
   
6. Work hard. Work can be a great distraction, especially if you feel like you're accomplishing something.
   
7. Indulge yourself. Chocolates, massages, facials, shopping sprees - whatever helps make you feel good about yourself.
8. Reevaluate Yourself
   One issue with breakup is that of self worth. It does not matter who's fault it was or who left who in the end we all tend to see the relationship as a failure and in turn see ourself as a failure. Many men and women hung up on their ex partners tend to either wallow in self pity or self loathing and exaggerate everything in their emotional anguish making it impossible to forget your ex because you cannot sort out your own feelings for yourself. A Journey of self discover is often what sets many people free but how this is done is so varied and dependent on the person I cannot advice anything except that concentrating on your own feelings for yourself must happen before you start trying to work out how to forget your ex, in fact this process will help forgetting them immensely!
9. Do Not Be IrrationalWe all do it at some point, we get very drunk or go out and spend more than we can afford on clothes or food or anything else we enjoy to cover our problems. This can also manifest itself in terrible outings either trying desperately to get our ex back or to try to make them jealous. In the end they are irrational actions brought about by a need to take action of some sort. Simply put ... don't do it! They may seem like a good idea or clever at the time but they are a symptom of a heart in turmoil trying to work out how to forget your ex.
10. Do Not Demonize Your Ex
    One thing that we are all tempted to do is to cast your ex in a bad light, to train yourself to hate them rather than want them back in a reactive exercise to crush any longing and pain by making them seem less desirable and unneeded. While you may envision yourself free of their influence because they will become detestable to you this creates more problems than it is worth and your new demonized feelings will be all mixed up with love making a tangle of emotions that can overwhelm, confuse and hurt you and any other relationships you may get involved with.
11. Date other people.

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Prom, Party, Ball and Evening Dress Trends For Winter and Christmas

 

With Christmas fast approaching, it is time to cheer yourself up and get dressed up for a party, ball or prom./ One of the most enjoyable parts of a night out at this time of year is choosing something beautiful to wear. For Autumn Winter 2008 and there are so many options to choose from but here are just a few of the best.

The Classic Prom Dress

This style of dress is just about every where. The beauty of it lies in its simplicity. It suits almost anyone and will usually be strapless, one colour with a flared below the knee skirt. It is great for showcasing a beautiful statement necklace or a gorgeous pair of high heels or an amazing clutch.

 

The Lace Dress

Lace is a big trend for Autumn winter 08 and there is a huge choice of lace dresses on offer to choose from ranging from lace style prom dresses to high necked ones similar to those seen on the catwalk at Prada.

The Beaded Dress

Beaded dresses are a great way to add a bit of sparkle and are great for a special occasion or a Christmas party. Choose from coloured beading for a really eye catching look or black for a slightly more subtle look. Keep jewellery to a minimum with a beaded dress as you do not want to look like a Christmas tree (even at Christmas).


The Asymmetrical Dress

The asymmetrical dress is another key trend for 2008, it usually has only one sleeve or shoulder and is often Grecian or draped style. This style of dress looks great either long or short and should be teamed with a simple pendant necklace if any so as not to interfere with the look of the neckline.


The Maxi Dress

Maxi dresses were around last year and were very popular. This year they are back again with many formal styles which are great for proms, parties and balls. This is a great style of dress for those that don't want to show off their legs or at occasions where it may inappropriate. Unless you are very tall be careful not to choose a maxi dress with too much volume in the skirt.


The Little Black Dress

The little black dress is a classic party dress made popular by both Coco Chanel and the classic film breakfast at Tiffanys. These days the term can mean anything from a beaded mini dress to a classic style shift dress. The popularity of the little black dress is probably due to its versatility and ability to flatter most figures. The little black dresses for Autumn and Winter 2008 can encompass many of the other key trends including the asymmetrical dress, prom dress, mini dress, lace dress or beaded dress.

What ever party, prom or ball dress you choose make sure that you have a great time!

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Best Wedding Quotes

At some point in life it seems like everyone's searching for perfect wedding quotes -- just the right words to express their deepest feelings.

You're sure to find the perfect wedding day quotes right here. So sit back, enjoy, and even laugh out loud at these entertaining wedding quotes. We've handily provided a list of favorites in our...

1. "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."

2. "Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart."

3. "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."

4. "There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage."

5. "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."

6. "Two such as you with such a master speed cannot be parted nor be swept away from one another once you are agreed that life is only life forevermore together wing to wing and oar to oar."

7. "In all of the wedding cake, hope is the sweetest of plums."

8. "To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish to death do us part." 

9. "He is the half part of a blessed man
Left to be finished by such as she:
And she a fair divided excellence
Whose fulness of perfection lies in him." 

10. "Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end. " 

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15 Steps to Heal Broken Heart

 

1. Try to understand why you are upset. Understand that everything happens for a reason. What exact moment made you feel upset?

2. Don't think about whose fault it was - at one time or another, everyone makes mistakes. Don't worry about it.

3. Do something quiet and relaxing to help you feel better. Maybe you want to take a hot bath, or meditate, or read a book. That's fine.

4. In an hour, or two, or whenever you're ready, start thinking about whether you are ready to accept the other person's feelings.

5. If you are, go ahead, call them, write them a note, or whatever you need to do. Maybe you want to talk face-to-face. They may not be willing to see you, or talk to you, but you should make an effort. Even if they turn you down, you feel better that you tried, and maybe they'll recognize that you made an effort.

6. Understand what causes a broken heart in the first place. When we are in a mutual loving relationship we are constantly transferring our life energy (chi/ka/qi/prana) to our beloved automatically and more so when we think of them. This is based on the Huna principle: "Energy flows where attention goes". In a balanced relationship this transference of life energy is strong and has equal amounts of incoming and outgoing life energy. This helps both members feel secure and stable in a relationship even if it might be long distance. An unbalanced relationship causes this energetic flow to fall out of sync and results in an uneven distribution of incoming and outgoing life energy. This is why when we feel insecure, needy or clingy in a relationship even when there might not be a real reason behind it. The likely cause for this is because you stopped being your ex's main attention point in life and your ex didn't allow energy to flow back to you. Your ex might have had some other priorities (new job, changes in family, moving to a new city) and this lack of incoming energy is what causes one to become needy, anxious, unsettled and insecure in a relationship. But now that you have been told that you won't be able to continue your relationship with your beloved there is a conflict in mind and heart. You are still transferring life energy to your beloved automatically by thinking of them(you do love them after all!) but this is resulting in an inner conflict as you know you should stop. Your heart chakra is wide open and your mind know nows that you won't be getting any more incoming energy back from your beloved but your body is still expecting it. This is why there is a great need to focus your energy on other aspects of life to balance your outgoing energy to something that will require your complete focus.

7. What we miss when drawing away from a relationship is that we can't express our love anymore to someone. Ways to continue this form of heartfelt expression (and keep our wellbeing in balance on an energetic level) is to write poetry, paint, sing, dance, and do whatever it takes to allow you to transform your pain into something productive!


8. Move on. When you feel you are ready to open your heart again, find someone else to be with. Make sure that this person is not a replacement for your ex, but that you appreciate who he/she is for her true self. This is a great time to find someone else that has the attributes that you perhaps thought your ex didn't have. Say to yourself: "My next boy/girlfriend will be someone that enjoys Zen gardening just as much as I do and won't laze about on the couch all day". By focusing on these aspects you will ensure that you find someone in the future that you can share interests together with and therefore further guarantee your happiness.

9. Smile! Seriously, smiling makes you feel better and if you gather a few good, close friends and have a laugh together, you'll remember how good life was without him/her and that you're okay really.

10. The moment he, she or it hammers the last drop of blood from your still loving/beating heart, stop arguing with that person or the fantasy voice of that person about how they are wrong and you are right. Everytime you catch yourself arguing your point in your own mind, just say stop and focus on something completely different

11. Put away the memories. When you regain composure from step 2, put the remainder candy wrappers, music, item of smell memory in the box with the rest of the memory debris. Keep out the picture.

• Every day for a week when you walk by the picture of your former beloved, say out loud, "Forget you and the horse you rode in on," or some other suitable invective and then catch yourself arguing with the memory and say stop. Say it out loud, be your filthy angriest self in these mutterings.
• Every day for the second week when you walk by the picture of your former beloved, say out loud. I miss you, and then catch yourself arguing with the memory and say stop.
• Every day for the third week when you walk by the picture of your former soul mate, say I am sorry out loud to the picture.

12. Let time heal. It has been one month now. Go to someplace where you used to go or be near your so-called one-true love and go there with a friend (not alone, this is important). Mention 1 time and 1 time only how you used to drink at this very bar or your used to fend off Mr or Mrs. Wonderful's advances in that same back store room, mention it once only and then have a drink or file some papers, or do what ever you used to do, only now with a different person, preferably a comfortable friend who can smile knowingly then move the conversation forward.

13. Read a book every night before you go to sleep. You might never have read books, but nothing moves you outside of yourself better than a book, not a movie, not a music video, read a book. It will help you heal.

14. Practice being honest to yourself every day. In fact, be honest to everyone. Living in the truth of every moment will allow you to carve your way to a better relationship the next time around.
 
15. Speak to people. Speak to friends. They have all been through the same and will gladly help ease your burden of dealing with a broken heart. Lean on your friends as much as you like, this will also help you determine your true friends in life. If your friends try to persuade you to get over your ex by finding someone new too soon then this friend might not be the best influence for you. Try out forums online. Knowing that thousands like you are going through the same pain helps a lot.



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Five Steps Before a Romantic Kiss

 

1. Get your lips in proper kissing order. The most kissable lips are smooth and sweet, not dry, chapped and tense. The guidelines in How to Get Kissable Lips will help both men and women make their lips look more attractive and inviting.

Here are the basics:

• Exfoliate your lips with sugar to make them soft. You never want your lips hard.
• Moisturize your lips to keep them soft.
• Relax your lips by parting them ever so slightly.

2. Look inviting and approachable. You might not realize it when you send a "leave me alone" message. Uncross your arms, keep your hands away from your face, make eye contact, and smile! Similarly, read his or her body language - is this person into you? Or does this person seem uncomfortable?

3. Break the "touch barrier." Touch the person lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch and don't make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. If everything is going well, try kissing the person on the cheek. If you find your lips near their ear (like if you're hugging someone from behind, or whispering something to them) go in for a gentle kiss on the cheek and see how they respond. Please note that the touch barrier is culture dependent. In certain cultures, e.g. Islamic, breaking the touch barrier is a big taboo that can land you in serious trouble. Be very careful.

4. Look at their lips. Make eye contact and then move your gaze briefly down to the person's lips. Then move your eyes back up to meet theirs and smile demurely. You don't have to be really obvious about it. Many people will take the hint, especially if they've read one of the many articles that lists this as a sign that a person wants to kiss or be kissed.

5. Approach for the kiss. Depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit. You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position—you just want to guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position—but in general you just want to position yourself correctly and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact.

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Work With Your Ex

Working with your ex is a situation few enjoy contemplating, let alone having to face. Nevertheless, with the following excellent advice, you and your ex will soon be civil workmates without that underlying tension.

Steps

1. Take steps to get over the break up. If the relationship ended recently, you might still be processing the emotions. Since you can't isolate yourself from your ex, it's especially important that you follow advice aimed at helping you to get over a break up, rather than repressing your anger and regrets. Nevertheless, be aware that you might still get emotional or choked up at work. 
2. Be professional. Whatever is going on in your love life, from 9-5 your mind must be on your job. Don't dwell on the reasons for your break up, it's over - move on. From this moment on, see your ex as a colleague only, just like everyone else in your workplace. Focus on enjoying your job. If your ex is being immature, treat your ex like you would treat any troublesome co-worker; read about dealing with annoying colleagues for extra ideas.
3. Talk it out. Discreetly take your ex to one side away from prying eyes. State that what's past is past, and that while it will be difficult, you are looking forward to being workmates. Mention that this workmate cordiality is important for both your jobs and your happiness. If your ex doesn't share your mature attitude, don't stoop to his or her level, and don't give each other the cold shoulder. The more normal you act, the more likely your ex is going to follow suit.
4. Don't spread the details with other colleagues. Misery attracts company. Mentioning you are having issues with your ex will see the whole sorry episode picked over again and again by your gossip hungry colleagues because they'll sense you've made it "fair game" for discussion. They may even begin to take sides, creating something that isn't there. Less scurrilous workmates might feel excluded or embarrassed by your situation and could try to keep away from you. It's much better to keep your affairs to yourself, in order to prevent your life being turned into the office soap opera. 
5. Avoid sensitive topics. Wounds may still be raw, so don't rub them. It's wise not to flirt with the new temp in your ex's presence, or to start reminiscing about what a great time you had in Ibiza or the Bahamas together last year. And never, ever bring up the break-up as a topic of conversation.
6. Give the workmate relationship time. Don't expect to immediately have the same working rapport with your ex as you have with your other colleagues. It will take time but eventually you may develop an even better relationship. Now get back to work!

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7 Ways to Get Happy Fast

How to Make Yourself Feel Happy In a Few Minutes!

Wouldn't it be amazing if you had the power to make yourself feel happy at any time no matter what may be going wrong in your life?

The truth is you have this capacity right now. All you have to do is use it. Just like anything, practice makes perfect and training is everything. The more you train your mind to be able to make yourself feel happy, the easier it will be for you to turn this switch on.

The thing is that what we focus on is what creates the feeling we have. If you are always thinking about the job you don't have or the talent you don't possess, then you will probably feel a little unhappy. Now, if you think of the one thing you do really well or the one thing good about your job (if you have one, you're lucky!) and you may begin to feel more happy. It really is about what you focus on.

So that being said, what are some ways we can assert control and take our happiness into our own hands on a daily basis.

Here is my list of ways to make yourself feel more happy.


1) Exercise. You may not want to hear this, but exercise is one of the best ways to raise your spirits. You feel great, your muscles are given some good use, and you breathe better. Your physical well-being contributes directly to your feelings of happiness. And I'm not talking about intense gym workouts or five mile runs. Take a twenty minute walk on your lunch break. Walk with a little bit of speed and you'll be amazed how this really unstrenuous activity will put you in a better mood and make you better able to deal with the situations that come your way.

2) Finish one Task you haven't gotten to yet. Everyone has one thing they've been meaning to complete, but never get to it. I say "meaning" because I know they haven't been "wanting" to complete the task. And this is the real trick. Notice how the things we want to do--the fun things, the things that reward us immediately--are the things that get done. And the things that are no fun never seem to get finished.
If you make a quick shift in your mind and look at how good you will feel when the annoying task or job is done, then you will derive happiness from its completion. Shift your mind to see finishing the thing as being a reward.
And only make it one or two tasks that you have to do. Our natural instinct is to make a long list of things we have to do. If your list is only two items long, you will be able to finish your list and feel good about it.

3) Talk to a Co-Worker of person you haven't talked to. We as humans need social interaction to feel good about ourselves. As much as we may try to avoid it in this crowded and me-centered world, we need to talk to people and relate to them. Try talking to a co-worker you haven't talked to before. You may make a friend. It releases tension in yourself when you relate to a new person, and there really is no feeling like having a cool interaction with someone you just met. There's a high you get when you make new people.


4) Control your anger. It's easy to have a little outburst about something, and it may be necessary at times to blow off steam. Instead of having a knee-jerk reaction to a little fight with your boss or friend and getting upset or angry, take a deep breath (how many times have you heard this?) and realize that you are in control of the situation and don't have to get angry. When you get angry, it is like allowing the other person to have control over you. Seriously, think about it--the person you are mad at all of a sudden has this magic power over your body and mind and makes you feel really bad (I'm talking about that anger that courses through your body and makes you feel just terrible).
Don't let this happen next time--why put yourself through that roller coaster emotional ride. Just stay centered and in control. Try it.


5) Smile. I have read that the act of smiling will make you feel happier. When you make yourself smile you are sending behavioral cues to your brain, body, and the rest of the world. You will actually start to feel a little happier. Try it. Actually try this: put a big smile on and try to feel unhappy. I don't think it's possible.

6) Concentrate on the moment. You don't always have to be worrying about the problems in your life or feeling anxious about the things you have to do. You are allowed to just sit and enjoy your life in this moment. Appreciate the rays of the sun hitting your face, fully enjoy your lunch, indulge yourself in fun conversation with a friend. If you allow yourself some "free time" you will recharge your batteries and feel good.


7) Try Something New. I know how corny these things can sound. But this will work. Try something new. Eat at a new restaurant. Read a few pages in a magazine or book about a subject matter you have never thought about. This opens your mind and creates new neural pathways, creating new thoughts and connections in your mind. Feel happy about the new knowledge or the new point of view.
Don't worry, be happy folks. The point of this article isn't that it is not good to feel bad or that you should feel happy all the time. I don't see this as the case. But I really believe that there are many instance in daily life where you don't have to feel bad--instances where, in fact, you can make yourself happy with a small amount of effort.

Let's be honest. It feels a lot better to be happy than it does to feel sad or angry.

Happiness is a State of Mind

It sounds cliche to say that happiness is a state of mind, but it's completely true.  The amazing thing is that you have the ability to change what you think about, thus changing what your mind focuses on.
Once you realize you have the ability to control how you feel, happiness happens.  It's pretty amazing.  If you have the strength to tell yourself that you don't need to be concentrating on the negative all the time, you open yourself up to thinking positively.
It's so much better to think about the things that are possible and the things you want to do, rather than thinking about all the things you've missed out on or all the things you don't think you can do.

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How to Meet New People Without Being Creepy

 

Everybody knows that first impressions count. And if the first impression you're giving is on the creepy side, you're probably tired of being misunderstood. This article will go over what makes someone seem creepy, and how you can stop giving off that creepy vibe.

# 1. Understand the stereotype of a creep. To creep is to move slowly and quietly as if sneaking up on someone. A person who's creepy is someone who's perceived to be eerily quiet in some way, as if there's something behind the scenes that could surprise you in an unpleasant way. Think of a cult leader, serial killer, child molester, or stalker. They all have a dark side brewing that they keep tucked away until the right opportunity comes along. And if you're coming off as creepy, it means you're doing some of the things that strange people often do. Other creepy behavior includes laughing or smiling at unacceptable moments, or perhaps finding humor where others find sadness.

# 2. Commit to changing your behavior. Those of us who get classified as creeps are often just people who are unapologetically unique. It's easy to feel resentful towards people for labeling you as creepy just because you're not jumping through the same social hoops as everyone else. And this feeling might make you resistant towards changing your behavior. So before you proceed, you have to accept that people judge each other, and sometimes they're off, but that's the way it goes. That's what you have to work with. So don't assume that changing the way you act in order to change people's perception of you is somehow violating your pledge to be yourself. If anything, it increases the likelihood that people can get to know your true self, because you're not warding them off in your first conversation by acting like a sociopath. Work on recognizing the behavior of others, and finding ways to interact with them that fall under social norms.

* There's an image presented in a lot of media, especially anime and video games, that being standoffish, mysterious, and quiet is "cool". In real life, however, it's more likely to come off as creepy.

* Don't feel that you must change the way you look or dress. If you can change the way you interact with people, what you look like won't matter as much. But the first time you meet someone, it probably doesn't help if you're dressed in latex or other fetish wear.

# 3. Become a good conversationalist. Awkward silences can very easily turn into creepiness. So can your babbling on and on about your mother, your cat, or your collection of bugs. A good conversationalist keeps finding things they have in common, and they do it in a casual, non-intrusive way. For example, there's a difference between asking someone "Have you ever held a tarantula?" and saying "Have you ever felt the tiny hairs of a tarantula's legs brush up against the palm of your hand?" The latter is more poetic, but way too intimate for a first conversation for most people (and this article presumes you want to learn how to deal with most people, not that tiny minority who's just as quirky and offbeat as you are and will most certainly appreciate your candor). Learn to start a conversation and keep it flowing in a fun, positive and casual way.

* It's worth repeating that you should not go on and on about unique hobbies or interests unless the person shares them or asks a lot of questions. If they only ask a few questions, that doesn't necessarily mean they're interested; it probably means they're being polite, so don't dominate the conversation with your enthusiasm. When first meeting someone, it's more important to listen to what they have to say than to talk about yourself.

# 4. Let go of any neediness you might have. Neediness is a precursor to obsessiveness, and obsessiveness is creepy. Needy people are imbalanced and unstable people, because their happiness hinges too greatly on someone else. If you're projecting a vibe that you'll be devastated if a person doesn't want to be your friend or romantic partner, it's time slow down, be patient, and examine yourself. Read How to Stop Being Needy.

# 5. Respect boundaries. This is a key social skill that many mis-labeled creeps are sorely lacking. Think of any kind of relationship as a video game. You start off at the easiest level, and as time goes on and you improve, you go to more difficult levels and achieve a greater sense of satisfaction. When you first meet someone, you're on level 1, and you're not supposed to proceed to level 2 until you get past level 1, and so on. Creeps tend to accidentally skip to level 15. There are a variety of ways in which they do this:

* Staring. Extended, direct eye contact is something lovers usually do. It's something you can do if the person you're talking to is noticeably romantically interested, but even then it's risky because the creep factor is high if you're mistaken. Look someone in the eye while they're talking, but also be sure to pull your gaze away periodically and shift your interest to other things. And check to make sure you don't have a tendency of staring at someone's body (chest, hands, shoes, whatever) even if in admiration or curiosity. In general, you don't want to make someone feel like they're under a microscope.

* Asking personal questions. What's too personal? It depends. Your best bet is to pay attention to other people's conversations. Notice what people feel comfortable talking about when they first meet. See How to Come Up with Good Conversation Topics. Know which topics to steer clear of: romantic experiences, politics, religion, illness or disease, and anything dark like murder or death (this is not the time to explain how the sword you have on your wall was designed to pierce someone's intestines in a particular way).

* Invitations. Don't invite someone into your basement, a cabin in the woods, a warehouse, or to any setting where horror movies often take place. If it's dark and isolated, it can easily become a creepy experience, and the creepy atmosphere might make you seem creepy, too. This kind of invitation also shows that you expect someone to trust you completely, which generally, they shouldn't (no matter how charming you might be; it's just not street smart). If you're going to extend an invitation, make it to a public place where there are plenty of people.

# 6. Pay attention to body language. Ultimately, everybody has different "standards" for creepiness. What's creepy to one person might be fascinating to another. The only way you can figure this out on a case-by-case basis is by paying attention to signals that a person's ready to go to the next level, or you're making them feel uncomfortable. And you need to do this without staring! For example, if someone is looking away a lot, or toward an exit, or they appear to be turning or edging away from you, it's probably a sign that they want to end the conversation. It'll take some practice and attentiveness, but once you get a grip on body language, you'll start to account for it subconsciously.

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