11 Tips on How to Forget Your Ex

 

Most people will at some point in their life have to deal with a breakup with a partner and the emotions that comes with it. Sometimes it takes a while to get back on your feet and other times you feel better after a shorter period of time. It all depends on what type of person you are and how serious the relationship was. Here are some advice on how to make this period as bearable as possible.

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

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• Chocolates

1. Talk to your friends.
   
2. Get clear with your ex. If there are a lot of unresolved issues involving money, possessions, etc., clear them up.
   
3. Distract yourself. Movies, sightseeing, outdoor activities, games and a good book are all possibilities.
   
4. Take up a new hobby or enroll in some classes.
   
5. Exercise - put your mind on something new, like training for a marathon, improving your tennis game, or working on those abs.
   
6. Work hard. Work can be a great distraction, especially if you feel like you're accomplishing something.
   
7. Indulge yourself. Chocolates, massages, facials, shopping sprees - whatever helps make you feel good about yourself.
8. Reevaluate Yourself
   One issue with breakup is that of self worth. It does not matter who's fault it was or who left who in the end we all tend to see the relationship as a failure and in turn see ourself as a failure. Many men and women hung up on their ex partners tend to either wallow in self pity or self loathing and exaggerate everything in their emotional anguish making it impossible to forget your ex because you cannot sort out your own feelings for yourself. A Journey of self discover is often what sets many people free but how this is done is so varied and dependent on the person I cannot advice anything except that concentrating on your own feelings for yourself must happen before you start trying to work out how to forget your ex, in fact this process will help forgetting them immensely!
9. Do Not Be IrrationalWe all do it at some point, we get very drunk or go out and spend more than we can afford on clothes or food or anything else we enjoy to cover our problems. This can also manifest itself in terrible outings either trying desperately to get our ex back or to try to make them jealous. In the end they are irrational actions brought about by a need to take action of some sort. Simply put ... don't do it! They may seem like a good idea or clever at the time but they are a symptom of a heart in turmoil trying to work out how to forget your ex.
10. Do Not Demonize Your Ex
    One thing that we are all tempted to do is to cast your ex in a bad light, to train yourself to hate them rather than want them back in a reactive exercise to crush any longing and pain by making them seem less desirable and unneeded. While you may envision yourself free of their influence because they will become detestable to you this creates more problems than it is worth and your new demonized feelings will be all mixed up with love making a tangle of emotions that can overwhelm, confuse and hurt you and any other relationships you may get involved with.
11. Date other people.

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