How to Avoid SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)

How to Avoid SAD

When winter days get shorter, colder and darker, do you feel more melancholy or depressed than when the sun is shining? If so, you're not alone. Twenty percent of people in the United States react to the change of seasons with a type of depression called Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, Symptoms typically arise in the fall and winter months, but those who are not exposed to sunlight during the day may experience SAD all year long.

Below you'll understand how to recognize SAD and manage your mood throughout the year.

Instructions

1. Take Charge of Your Mood

The three troublesome feelings: hopelessness, depression and anxiety start to develop in the fall for folks who suffer from SAD. While these uncomfortable feelings can interfere with the quality of your day, there are things you can do to feel better and avoid feeling down. The first step is to acknowledge the feelings and then commit to doing whatever it takes to alter your mood. Take charge of your emotions; don't let your mood take charge of you.

2. Turn Negative Thoughts Positive

Negative thoughts increase the more you think about them. It is possible to see the bright side by focusing on a positive thoughts. For example, replace the negative thought, "There is nothing to look forward to," with "I will find something joyful today." Look for the joy. When your mind starts thinking negative thoughts, say to yourself: "Stop mind, I am looking for joy." You do control what you think. Ask yourself: "What would I like to think today?" To find inspiration, read a positive story, poem, or if you are religious, pray each morning to encourage positive thoughts.

3. Do Not Hide or Isolate Yourself

If your tendency is to hide away and keep sadness to yourself, when you're feeling down, then you might need help changing this habit. Get a buddy to keep you on track. Isolation increases hopelessness and makes your anxiety grow. Reach out to friends. Make dates for walking and talking. Getting some exercise and fresh air can help. Discuss new ways to get through the winter. Remind yourself that you are not alone. Many people cope with the seasonal blues. It can help to overcome them together.

4. Balance Movement With Rest

Rest, sleep, nap and move your body. To feel in balance we need rest and movement. People with SAD need as much as 10 hours of sleep in the winter, and that's OK, but if you find that you're sleeping more than that, you could benefit from moving. If you are prone to insomnia or nodding off in the middle of the day, getting out of the house will get the body working to uplift the mood. Fresh air, exercise, yoga or a walk around the block will lighten your spirit. Don't postpone this type of exercise. Don't make up excuses. Take charge and enjoy a happy, healthy winter.

5. Sit in Bright Light

A specialized light box designed to mimic sunshine will kick-start your brain chemicals without the side effects of medication. Make your home sunny and bright. Keep the blinds open, sit by the window, burn good-smelling candles. Creating a cozy home will help you feel safe, warm and ready to socialize.

6. Listen to Upbeat Music and an Inspiring Audio Book

Music is calming and energizing. In the morning put on energizing music and at night play calming sounds. Listening to a book on tape is entertaining and educational. Listening to a human voice can be soothing as well. Plus, you feel less alone when being read to. Go to the library and bring home books on tape. Hearing the story will distract you from anxieties, and the soothing voice will help you fall asleep at night.

7. Apply a Grateful Remedy

The quickest cure for hopelessness is counting your blessings. When you feel the seasonal blues overtake you, don't let those momentary thoughts and feelings stop you from being grateful. List five things that you are grateful for each day. Say them out loud daily, and soon you will have reprogrammed your brain to experience the joy of being alive. Gratitude is good for body and soul.

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9 Steps to Dress Formal to Look Like a Gentleman

  Want to impress colleagues around you? Then, dress sharp. Follow these steps to dress formally.

Steps

1. Make sure your shirt is tidy and well creased

2. Wear a light shirt and dark pants or the converse of it.

3. Wear a tie that is contrasting with your shirt. (e.g. light tie for dark shirts or dark ties for light shirts)

4. Make sure your shoes and belt match.

5. Shoes must be well polished.

6. Wear a good quality tie. It adds to your grace.

7. Always keep a clean handkerchief.

8. Always wear dark coloured socks

9. Make sure your hair is neat and tidy.

Tips

    * Have a pleasant smile
    * Wear nice perfume; it will have magnetic effect.
    * Always get dressed in front of a mirror.
    * Make sure your nails are clean and cut neatly
    * Take time when shaving

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9 Steps to Be a Modern Gentleman

If it seems like chivalry is dead, you'd be incorrect in assuming such. However, women recognize that it is becoming harder and harder to find the type of man who has long been termed "a gentleman".

Men, let's be frank; this article is for you. If you haven’t scored a second date recently – or ever – it may be time to reevaluate your dating technique. There’s no need to be in the dark when it comes to the right way to treat women. Becoming a modern gentleman is just a few steps away.

Steps

1. Understand that equality doesn't mean throwing your manners and good taste out of the window. The dating game is still about captivating one another, impressing one another, and being on your best behavior. Behaving in an ungentlemanly manner might get some laughs in the retelling and it might even temporarily attract a woman who is into the date for a lark but it won't get you a long-term commitment and it definitely won't win you respect. Boldly stating that women are equal so they can jolly well pay and put up with you as you are is a blinkered approach to dating. The importance of indulging in a little etiquette when dating will be repaid by a dating experience that is considerate, caring, and most of all, more fun because your date will definitely be impressed by your manners and what used to be referred to as "good breeding". So, it's time to dress well, plan a decent date, and polish up your gentlemanly ways.

2. Be on time. A gentleman never keeps his date waiting but is punctual and ready to go at the appointed hour. Set your alarm if needed, and plan how long it will take to arrive at your destination ahead of time.

• Don't be late without a very good excuse and be sure to phone her to explain what has happened to hold you up. She may not wait long, especially if she's had previous experiences with non-gentleman types standing her up.

3. Compliment your date. Women like reassurance when it comes to their appearance. A great way to make a positive first impression is by offering a compliment on your date’s appearance. Be cautious though. Using cliched pick-up lines and corny compliments would make most women sprint back to their apartments. Be careful not to come across as creepy. No girl likes to feel objectified. Keep the compliments light and innocent.

• Never insult your date. One quick way to guarantee you don’t get a second date is to insult your date. If you recognize that you are a person prone to criticizing, try to hold back on even the slightest criticism. Making any criticism, no matter how constructive you feel it to be, will probably come across as an insult which will start the downhill spiral of your date. If you recognize that you are a sarcastic or humorous person, be careful not to take a joke too far. Even if you’re joking, a woman may take your joke the wrong way. It’s best to avoid anything resembling an insult or a sarcastic tone altogether, and if it's politically incorrect, volatile, or gossip, don't say it.

4. Open doors for your date. Men, this is chivalry 101. When walking out of any door, make sure you hold the door open for your date and let her walk out first. This will make your date feel special and respected. There's no need to do this with flamboyant gestures though; just do it subtly and thoughtfully.

• Don't let the door slam on your date. This should be a given. When walking out of doors, it’s rude to walk out first, especially when that means letting the door close on your date. To women, this action signals selfishness. Men, if you’re afraid of looking like you care too much, don’t. It’s not a sign of weakness to open doors for your dates, in fact, it is just the opposite.

  5. Help your date to her chair before you sit down. This may seem odd because it doesn’t happen very often these days, but by pulling out the chair for your date so she can sit down first, this shows your date that you care about her interests before your own. It is also a very gentlemanly gesture liable to score you a big win in the manners stakes.

• Don't pull the chair out so she falls down. Remember how old you are; this kind of prank didn’t work in the sixth grade, and it definitely won’t work now. Your date will be embarrassed or shocked and if she doesn’t leave right then and there, she definitely won’t stick around for a second date.
• If you are eating with others at the table, wait until everyone is seated and ready to eat before beginning to eat. A gentleman does not bolt down his dinner.

6. Ask questions about your date. Be a good conversationalist. Don’t be afraid of awkward silence; instead, keep the conversation rolling by coming prepared with plenty of things to talk about. Your date will feel respected if you listen to what she has to say and she will be impressed if you don’t let the conversation drop.

• Don't play with your food, talk while chewing, yawn, etc. Being a modern gentleman means sitting up straight and looking your date in the eye when you’re talking to each other. Don’t spend too much time looking down at your plate – your mashed potatoes can’t talk back.
• Don't flaunt being wealthy or talk derogatorily about people who are wealthy. Both approaches show a total lack of refinement and cause the listener to squirm uncomfortably, wondering what personal takeover or revolution you're planning next. If you are wealthy and you want to make this evident, wear quality clothing but don't brag.On the other hand, no man needs to be wealthy to have good taste, so wear good, clean, and well-pressed clothing whatever your means.
• Make a small talk.

7. Be prepared to pay for you and your date’s meals. If she offers to pay, kindly refuse. Remind her that you are on a date and it is your pleasure to take the bill. There is a lot of confusion about this aspect of a date but a gentleman is never confused; a gentleman simply gets on with paying. 

• Don't use the ruse of leaving your wallet behind and expecting your date to pay. Even if you don’t "forget" your wallet, don’t expect your date to pay for her own meal. When the waitress comes by with the bill, don’t hesitate to grab it. By leaving it on the table for too long, your date might get nervous wondering if you’re going to pay.

8. Offer your arm when walking with your date. This is a gentlemanly act and it is also one guaranteed to help your date when she's walking on uneven ground in her high heels. While it is an intimate act, it is perfectly acceptable for a gentleman and means nothing more than being respectful.Always walk alongside a woman when walking down stairs, not behind her.

• It's also a good idea to help her to put on her coat when leaving a building during the colder weather.
• Always walk next to the road on a roadside; that way if there is any splashing from puddles, it'll hit you, not her.

9. Let your date know how much fun you had and offer a possible second date. Keep your boundaries by being polite and respectful. Women don’t like to feel forced into a goodnight kiss or anything more.

• Don't try to force any moves, especially if she seems unwilling. Treat her with respect. It is a huge turnoff when a man assumes his right to move in on his date.
• Maintain her honor. Never kiss and tell.

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Portable RAR Recovery ToolBox 1.1.10.21

The RAR Recovery Toolbox tool recovers data from damaged RAR archives. The RAR repair program scans the archive, defines the data structure and tries to recover as much information as it can from the damaged file. Using several different recovery algorithms, the RAR file repair tool minimizes data loss and tries to recover the maximum possible amount of information. The RAR file repair tool also checks the data for consistency to enhance the quality of data recovery. After the RAR recover program finishes the recovery session, it shows a full recovery report.

An intuitive and convenient user interface makes the work with the RAR repair program easy and comfortable even for a beginner. The process of RAR recovery consists of several steps performed in separate windows, so the rar recovery process becomes even more convenient.

During data rar recovery the RAR repair program doesn't modify the damaged RAR archive; it just recovers files from the archive and saves it to the hard disk. The folder structure remains the same a damaged RAR archive, file and folder names aren't changed too. Software don't fix RAR file over old archive file.

Features:

* Recover rar encrypted files

* Recovering data from password-protected RAR archives (repair .rar files protected by password)

* Recover RAR files from damaged storage devices (floppy disks, CDs, Zip-Drives, etc.)

* Working with damaged RAR archives in a local network (repair .rar files over intranet)

* Using several independent algorithms to maximize the amount of recovered information from damaged rar files

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Main causes of damage to RAR archives:

* Incorrect shutdown of the operating system (power drop, restarting the computer using the RESET button, etc.)

* Virus activity

* Incorrect work of antivirus software

* The archive wasn't downloaded/copied from the network completely

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Portable PDFDesk Easy PDF Creator 2.01

Easy PDF Creator offers an easy and less expensive way of creating high-quality PDF documents out of almost any windows application. The software installs as if it were a real printer, making the creation of PDF files as easy as printing. Common documents can be converted to PDF files at an incredibly fast speed while retaining the look and feel of the original documents as well as many options that give users flexibility in PDF creation. More than 500 applications and file formats are natively supported.

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The software supports such features of the PDF format as paper size, resolution, orientation, compatibility, fonts embedding, live hyperlink, embedded images, formulas, tables, figures, 40-bit and 128-bit encryption, password protection, document usage control, document metadata, automatic output and batch conversion.

With Easy PDF Creator Plug-ins, existing PDF documents can be easily converted into HTML, RTF, TXT format with a minimum loss of information while preserving the layout and graphics of the original documents. All useful plug-ins are included in the software package, and new ones will be published on the website for download free of charge.

As professional PDF creation software, Easy PDF Creator gives businesses the means to effectively deliver existing business documents to partners, customers and employees.

Features:

Create PDF documents from any Windows application that supports printing

Microsoft .NET platform and Microsoft Office 2010 compatibility

Merge PDF documents

Automatic output PDF file to specific path

PDF content encryption with passwords (48-bit and 128-bit support)

Usage control prevents PDF documents from being modified, copied, converted, printed, signed, converted, etc.

Live hyperlink support

Up to 2540x2540 dpi printing resolution

Custom paper size support

PDF document information, including title, subject, keyword, and author

PDF compatibility option for Abode PDF format

PDF font embedding options

PDF printing scaling

Convert PDF files into HTML, RTF and TXT format.

Automatic installation and configuration

Printer sharing

Native support for 500+ Windows applications

Batch conversion

Plug-ins support

Live update for new versions and plug-ins

Free upgrades in the future for registered users

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Acronis True Image Home 2011 v14.0.0.5105 Final (Silent Installation)

Acronis True Image Home is an integrated software suite that ensures the security of all of the information on your PC. It can back up the operating system, applications, settings and all of your data, while also securely destroying any confidential data you no longer need. With this software, you can back up selected files and folders, settings and messages of Microsoft e-mail clients â? or even the entire disk drive or selected partitions. Acronis Online Backup will allow you to store your most important files on a remote storage. Your data will be protected even if your computer is lost, stolen or destroyed. Acronis Nonstop Backup continuously saves changes in your system and files, as often as every five minutes, allowing you to rollback easily to any point in time if needed.

Acronis True Image Home 2011 v14.0.0.5105 Final (Silent Installation) | 181 MB

New in Acronis True Image Home 2011:

New user interface – Redesigned user interface and usability enhancements, based on the results ofusability testing, make Acronis True Image Home easier to use than ever before. Predefined backup schemes – Acronis True Image Home offers you predefined backup schemes designed for specific user needs - from a disk space-efficient scheme suitable for users with limited backup storage capabilities to a scheme for those users who need higher security for their data and system. The program offers different backup schemes for disk and file type backups. You just select a scheme and the program automatically manages your backups. In addition, you can create a custom backup scheme which will exactly suit your needs.

Check points - The Acronis Backup Explorer timeline shows Windows and software installation and update dates. Moving your mouse over a check point opens a balloon with information about the update or software. With check points you can check the changes to your system and recover the system to a specificbacked up state.

USB 3.0 support – Acronis True Image Home supports the new USB 3.0 standard. If your motherboard can work with USB 3.0 hard disk drives, you can use the high data transfer speed offered by the new standard to make your backups run much faster.

Enhanced Acronis Nonstop Backup – Now you can use Acronis Nonstop Backup for protecting both partitions and individual files and folders. Protection of individual folders by Acronis Nonstop Backupusually requires much less storage space. In addition, the current version of Acronis True Image Home allows you to use the Acronis Secure Zone as Nonstop Backup storage. This may be desirable for notebook users with a single hard disk drive.

Automatic update notification – By default, Acronis True Image Home will automatically inquire about the availability of a program update at every program start. When an update is available, Acronis True Image Home will offer to download and install it. You can also check for availability of updates manually through the Help menu.

New Backup Explorer – Now you can use the Acronis Backup Explorer's time line for exploring not only Acronis Nonstop Backup and Acronis Online Backup contents, but contents of all other backups as well. Clicking My backups in the main window will show all your backups on the time line. In addition, you can start recovery of disks and partitions right from the time line.

Enhanced scheduler – the completely redesigned scheduler makes scheduling much easier. In eddition, it now allows you to wake up the sleeping/hibernating computer to perform a backup. The "At system shutdown" and "At user logoff" options are now available to users of Windows Vista and Windows 7.

Minimum system requirements:

CD-RW/DVD-RW drive for bootable media creation

Mouse or other pointing device (recommended).

Using Acronis Nonstop Backup requires at least 1 GB RAM.

Hardware requirements:

256 MB RAM

Processor Pentium 1 GHz or faster

The recommended screen resolution is 1280 x 1024.

The minimum screen resolution is 800 x 600.

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Internet Download Manager 6.02 Beta Build 2 Silent install

Internet Download Manager has a smart download logic accelerator that features intelligent dynamic file segmentation and safe multipart downloading technology to accelerate your downloads. Unlike other download accelerators and managers that segment files before downloading starts, Internet Download Manager segments downloaded files dynamically during download process. Internet Download Manager reuses available connections without additional connect and login stages to achieve better acceleration performance.

Internet Download Manager 6.02 Beta Build 2 Silent install | 7,5 MB

Internet Download Manager supports proxy servers, ftp and http protocols, firewalls, redirects, cookies, authorization, MP3 audio and MPEG video content processing. IDM integrates seamlessly into Microsoft Internet Explorer, Netscape, MSN Explorer, AOL, Opera, Mozilla, Mozilla Firefox, Mozilla Firebird, Avant Browser, MyIE2, and all other popular browsers to automatically handle your downloads. You can also drag and drop files, or use Internet Download Manager from command line. Internet Download Manager can dial your modem at the set time, download the files you want, then hang up or even shut down your computer when it's done.

Other features include multilingual support, zip preview, download categories, scheduler pro, sounds on different events, HTTPS support, queue processor, html help and tutorial, enhanced virus protection on download completion, progressive downloading with quotas (useful for connections that use some kind of fair access policy or FAP like Direcway, Direct PC, Hughes, etc.), built-in download accelerator, and many others.

Main Features:

• All popular browsers and applications are supported! Internet Download Manager has been tested with the following browsers: Internet Explorer, MSN Explorer, AOL, Netscape Communicator, Netscape 6, Netscape 7, Mozilla, Mozilla Firefox, Mozilla Firebird, Opera, NetCaptor, UltraBrowser, Slim Browser, Avant Browser, MyIE2, Optimal Desktop, Ace Explorer, Advanced Browser, 27 Tools-in-1 Wichio Browser, WindowSurfer, 550 Access Browser, FineBrowser Freeware, Kopassa Browser, Fast Browser Pro, Enigma Browser, GoSuRF, K-Meleon, Smart Explorer, The Off By One Web Browser, Smartalec Voyager, CrystalPort AppCapture, The Family Browser, XANA Web Browser, Bluto, AutoSurf, 32bit Web Browser, BrowseMan, WrestlingBrowser, Eminem Browser, UltraBrowser, Cygsoft LDAP Browser, and Net M@nager. Internet Download Manager supports all versions of popular browsers, and can be integrated into any 3rd party Internet applications.

• Easy downloading with one click. When you click on a download link in a browser, IDM will take over the download and accelerate it. IDM supports HTTP, FTP, HTTPS and MMS protocols.

• Download Speed Acceleration. Internet Download Manager can accelerate downloads by up to 5 times due to its intelligent dynamic file segmentation technology. Unlike other download managers and accelerators Internet Download Manager segments downloaded files dynamically during download process and reuses available connections without additional connect and login stages to achieve best acceleration performance.

• Download Resume. Internet Download Manager will resume unfinished download from the place where they left off.

• YouTube grabber. Internet Download Manager can grab FLV videos from popular sites like YouTube, MySpaceTV, and Google Video.

• Simple installation wizard. Quick and easy installation program will make necessary settings for you, and check your connection at the end to ensure trouble free installation of Internet Download Manager

• Drag and Drop. You may simply drag and drop links to IDM, and drag and drop downloaded files out of Internet Download Manager.

• Automatic Antivirus checking. Antivirus checking makes your downloads free from viruses and trojans.

• Advanced Browser Integration. When enabled, the feature can be used to catch any download from any application. None of download managers have this feature.

• Built-in Scheduler. Internet Download Manager can connect to the Internet at a set time, download the files you want, disconnect, or shut down your computer when it's done.

• IDM includes web site spider and grabber. IDM downloads all required files that are specified with filters from web sites, for example all pictures from a web site, or subsets of web sites, or complete web sites for offline browsing. It's possible to schedule multiple grabber projects to run them once at a specified time, stop them at a specified time, or run periodically to synchronize changes.

• IDM supports many types of proxy servers. For example, IDM works with Microsoft ISA, and FTP proxy servers.

• IDM supports main authentication protocols: Basic, Negotiate, NTLM, and Keberos. Thus IDM can access many Internet and proxy servers using login name and password.

• Download All feature. IDM can add all downloads linked to the current page. It's easy to download multiple files with this feature.

• Customizable Interface. You may choose the order, and what buttons and columns appear on the main IDM window.

• Download Categories. Internet Download Manager can be used to organize downloads automatically using defined download categories.

• Quick Update Feature. Quick update may check for new versions of IDM and update IDM once per week.

• Download limits. Progressive downloading with quotas feature. The feature is useful for connections that use some kind of fair access policy (or FAP) like Direcway, Direct PC, Hughes, etc.

• IDM is multilingual. IDM is translated to Albanian, Arabic, Azerbaijan, Bosnian, Bulgarian, Chinese, Croatian, Czech, Danish, Dutch, Farsi, French, German, Greek, Hebrew, Hungarian, Italian, Japanese, Korean, Lithuanian, Macedonian, Norwegian, Polish, Portuguese, Romanian, Russian, Serbian, Slovak, Slovenian, Spanish, Thai, Turkish, and Uzbek languages.

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10 Tips for Save a Friendship

"Friends are like stars. You don't always see them but you know they are there." Once said by someone wise, this quote sums up how easy it is to take a friendship for granted, and yet, just as stars fade away, so do friendships from time to time. Whether it's because your circumstances have changed, time has passed and eroded commonalities, or something has been said or done that has spoiled things between you, it's sad and often painful to experience a fading or dying friendship.

If you believe that it's worth trying to save your friendship, then it is worth it. The only time it's not worth trying is when you've stopped believing in the friendship. So, if you're still stirred by a friendship that has given you priceless moments, unconditional love, and treasured memories, at least give saving the friendship a chance. While problems are inevitable, if both of you see the value in saving the friendship, focusing on fixing things may just be effective, and your friendship may even come through this trial better and stronger than before.

Steps :

1. Act now. The moment you're aware that there's a chasm opening wider than the Grand Canyon between the two of you, do something about it. Waiting will only bring about an inevitable permanency of the loss of your friendship. Be prepared to be the one who makes the initial steps; your friend may be laboring under the belief that it's something you've done to harm the friendship, so it's not worth waiting around for her to solve things.

2. Do some honest analysis of the situation. Sit down and think back to where it all went wrong. Was it your fault? Was it something you said or did or didn't say or do although you should have? This involves thinking about your inaction as well, such as all those times you failed to make a call to see how your friend was, or when you missed appointments, or failed to show up at important events.

3. If it was your fault, apologize. Briefly explain your side of the story and avoid making excuses or shifting the blame. By taking responsibility for your part in damaging the friendship, you demonstrate to your friend that your desire to keep them as a friend is more important than your pride or sense of self-righteousness.

4. Talk, talk, talk. If you can't seem to find the reason for the growing interpersonal distance between you and your friend, suggest that the two of you simply talk. Tell your friend that you're sad that things don't seem to be that great between the two of you anymore and that you'd really like to work out whether it might be possible to restore the friendship you had in the past. Your willingness to work through the issues will be appreciated, especially if you make it clear that you're totally open to hearing their side of the story. Try not to interrupt your friend while explaining their side of the story. Instead, listen attentively.

5. Listen to your friend. If a third party has been telling different stories to both of you to cause conflicts, listening to your friend is the best way to spot it. Ask who told them that if you hear that you said something you'd never say in a million years. It's amazing how fast a third party liar's mind games blow up in their face once the victims compare notes. So even if someone is trying to avoid you, ask why and be prepared to listen no matter what your friend says.

6. Make a decision as to the worth of disputing points about your behavior or issues that have arisen in the friendship. If your friend has the wrong end of the stick and has misunderstood things that you've said or done (or not done), then by all means clarify what you believe to be the case. However, do not be argumentative or confrontational, as this will cause your friend to feel defensive and it will simply speed up the end of the friendship. Be patient, explain clearly how you see the situation and give your interpretation of past events without judging or defensiveness. For example: Your friend might accuse you of never being there during important events in the opening of their new business over the past year. They might say that it got to the point that every time he or she asked you to help out, you seemed too busy or disinterested in their new venture even though at first you had been very supportive. You might reply that you accept it was wrong of you to never be available to talk things through. You might also outline what happened to prevent you from being the close friend of former times. For example, perhaps you had to take care of a sick child or spouse, all the while trying to hold down your job with its unforgiving deadlines. Provide factual explanations of why you weren't as engaged with your friendship as you could have been rather than offering excuses - the truth is important. And don't seek sympathy or pity but do clarify why you were not able to be there for your friend.

7. Acknowledge your differences. Your friend might be footloose and fancy free while you're a dad to three kids. As life changes around us, friendships change too. However, this doesn't mean that you lack that vital connection that sparked the friendship in the first place and shifts in your working, personal, and lifestyle doesn't have to undermine your friendship. Talking openly about the changes is important, as well as accepting that the two of you have different trajectories but still have space, love, and respect for one another in your lives.

• If your friend has distanced from you because of changes in your lives, take the opportunity to reassure each other that while life has changed, the importance of your friendship has not. And acknowledge that if you have changed, you certainly don't expect your friend to change.
• Resurrect some things that the two of you can still enjoy doing together. For example, set aside a regular night, afternoon, or day when the two of you meet up to spend time together doing the things you both enjoy such as seeing a movie, sitting in a cafe, playing a sport, etc.

8. Avoid being naive. While you may want to rescue the friendship, be alert for signs that your friend is deliberately seeking to end it. Given that this is an unthinkable prospect in a previously loving, and caring connection, only resort to believing this is a possibility if the signs make it extremely obvious, for example, if your friend goes out of their way to avoid you, or stops answering your calls, or can never be found by you but mutual friends don't seem to have this problem, it's possible that your friend is trying to end things. If this is the case, try to revive things but don't beat yourself up if it fails because it's not your fault and the other person has a made a choice that you can't change.

9. Find a compromise. Assuming your friend has talked and listened, and both of you have cleared the air, look for ways that you can reach compromises on the things that have undermined your friendship to this point and look for ways to set the relationship back on track. If you mean as much to this person as they means to you, through mutual compromising in the end you will have at least made some progress in the right direction.

10. Show willingness to strengthen your friendship and to avoid growing apart ever again. Once you have worked through the challenges facing your friendship and come to a shared solution, show your friend how much they mean to you. Start creating new memories and precious moments that will make the unpleasant page in your common history look insignificant and never worth mentioning again.

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Steps for Make Valentine's Day More Meaningful

Forget the mass-marketed, red-hearted Valentine's Day pressure that starts heating up about now. Steer clear of high-priced flowers, tasteless candy hearts and stuffed bears. Follow these tips to make a significant other feel cherished. Show that Valentine's Day means more than romance and gifts. It means that person is the focus of your caring attention, dutiful doting and loving affection.

1. Concentrate on your partner. Focus on how special they are to you. Instead of stressing about the perfect Valentine's gift, think about all the fun, silly, spunky, sexy, serious and loving things that this person does for you. Think about who he or she is. What makes them smile? What are they truly passionate about? What small little things could you do every day that would make them feel more loved?

2. Under-promise and over-deliver. Make promises early and make them often—just keep them. No emergency is more important than love. Show your love and respect by honoring your time together and your commitments. Leave work early and call them on the way home to say you just couldn't wait to see them. Ask if they'd like you to pick up something special before you get there.

3. Be a mirror. We reflect the world around us, the good, the bad and the ugly. Be mindful of your partner's moods. When you're approached with love and joy, mirror it back and they'll feel especially loved and close to you.

4. Note it. Love notes are a sure way to inspire a loving connection every day of the year. They don't all have to be sappy poems. Buy a calendar, keep it in the bathroom and write a reason a day that you appreciate and admire your one-and-only. Follow the object of your affection to the store or the dry cleaners and leave a note on their car in the parking lot. Drop them in a purse or write them on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase pen for a pleasant surprise to wake up to.

5. Plan a dream date that won't cost you a dime. Tell this person that the only topic of conversation is to hear about their dreams, what they love, what they want to do before leaving the planet, what they'd like to learn, where they'd like to travel, and who they most admire. Let them talk freely without stopping and then write a few down later and help create those dreams.

6. Prepare a romantic meal or just pick up restaurant delivery on the way home or have one of the online gourmet delivery options deliver a five-course meal to your doorstep. Dim the lights. Play Sinatra or another one of their favorites and tidy up the kitchen , too!

7. Make the very last moment of your day together special by kissing them softly, accommodating a simple request like water or Kleenex, pulling the covers up to their chin, touching their forehead and telling them how much they're valued.

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Give Unique Valentine's Day Gifts That Say What You Mean

 

To most men, Valentine's Day is the day you're supposed to buy flowers or candy for your wife or girlfriend. But to most women, Valentine's Day is about expressing your innermost feelings about someone. It's about saying how much you really value someone -- through the purchase of a material object, of course. Here's how to give Valentine's Day gifts she's bound to love.

Steps :

1. Think about the message you want to convey to her. Is it, "I think you're special", "You're so beautiful", or "I want to keep you guessing"? Whatever the message, there's an easy way to communicate it through your gift.

2. Match your gift to the message. This may sound easier said than done, but checking the Tips section might give you some ideas.

3. Get help from others. If you're just not sure how to express your feelings, get some advice from friends, parents or whomever you trust, but don't have some other person go gift shopping for your girl.

4. Consider the risk of getting your "hidden message" wrong. If anything about your idea could be misleading, don't go through with it. Take the safe route and keep it simple

5. Just say it. More often than not, the whole "saying it through the grapevine"-thing backfires. In many cases the lady would have preferred some heartfelt kind words to a gift.

Tips :

1. If your message is "I spent big bucks on you", you can buy her jewelry or go one step better than that by giving her the whole store -- well, buying her Tiffany stock. It's like owning the store, isn't it? (See the external links for more info on how to get a framed share of Tiffany stock for around $120.)(Be careful, many women won't see Stock in any store as romantic.)
2. To convey that the lady is special to you, you could get her a customized poem (although maybe a self-written one is more personal). Both Personal Creations and 1-800-flowers sell giant fortune cookies that can be personalized, free of charge.
3. If you are in an intimate relationship and want to compliment her looks, you may want to think about getting her lingerie. It is advised to find out nonchalantly if she would appreciate that as a gift, as some women feel objectified by this type of behaviour.
4. If you're unsure about your message or your relationship, try to set up an unusual date. Try something your girl might like. If she's an outdoorsy person, pack a picnic to share at sunset and spend some time on the blanket looking at the stars. This is especially romantic if you have a beach in the proximity.
5. If your girl is into arts, take her to an exhibition. Once there you can buy her the catalogue or a nice poster if she likes a piece very much. If she likes a certain band, get tickets to a concert near you.
6. If you don't know anything about a girl's hobbies or preferences, make sure you find out about them before Valentine's Day so you have some clues you can build your idea on.
7. Make a romantic scavenger hunt. Have romantic clues set up all over the house (or city), and make them search from place to place until they find the final prize (make sure the final prize is something extra special),

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How to Keep a Friend for Life

Keeping a friend by your side for life is what every girl is hoping. Follow these steps and maybe that could happen!

Steps :

1. Be nice to your friend. 

• No person wants their feelings hurt. It also would be rude not to be nice anyway.

2.  When she/he is at your house, make them feel comfortable..

3. Tell her often that, 'You're my best friend!' or 'I'm glad to have you as my friend'. It will make her feel like a good person.

 

Tips :

• Invite your friend to your house often, it will make her feel like, that you like her as a friend.
• Don't get caught up spending too much time with a boyfriend, it will make your friend feel left out. Also a friend is much more important than a boyfriend.

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Choose Between Two Best Friends

 

Do you have a problem with two friends? Sometimes, jealousy can cause difficulties in friendships, so if you have to choose between best friends, here are some things to consider. 

Steps :

1.

Look at common interests you have with each friend. This will help determine which you may want to develop more loyalty to.

2. Think about how close you are to each. If one is farther away, they may be less available for you when you really need them.

3.  Consider their character. Greedy, selfish, or dishonest people are often not the best choice for best friend.

4. Give thought to how competitive each is. When you are working toward a goal, is one more likely to compete against you than help you to achieve it?

5. Consider ways each one complements you personally. Can you be a better team with one person than the other?

6. Decide who you trust the most. Trusting a person is a high priority in a friendship.

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How To Ask A Girl Out On A Date

Let's say you've met a great girl, and you want to spend more time with her. But what if she's seeing someone else, or is in a serious relationship? You can still ask her out, provided you don't mind rejection and if you keep the following recommendations in mind.

Steps :

1. Try to find out how serious she is about the person she's dating. Are they dating casually? Or are they in an exclusive relationship? The easiest way to find out is to be direct: "Do you have a boyfriend?" or "Are you single?" If she says she doesn't have a boyfriend, or that she is single, just ask her out normally. Just because she's gone on a few dates with someone doesn't mean she can't go on a date with someone else.

2. If she's in a relationship, one thing you can do is be bold and ask her if she's happy. Or, ask her if she loves him. If you sense any hesitation, ask her out, making sure to let her know you won't overstep boundaries:

• "I haven't known you for that long, but you seem really cool, and you haven't convinced me that you're happy with your guy. Why don't we go out and talk? I won't make any moves. I respect that you're in a relationship. I just want to get to know you better, and figure out why an awesome girl like you would stay with someone who doesn't make her completely happy. Want to get a cup of coffee?"
• "Look, maybe I'm being arrogant here and tell me to pull my head in if you wish, but you don't seem to be all that sure about how you feel about this guy. A girl like you should be with someone whom she's passionate about. Why don't we go out and talk? I won't make any moves. I can respect that you're in a relationship. Let's meet for drinks later, okay?"

3. Another approach is to give her your contact information, telling her it's just in case she becomes single. Skip straight to giving her a way to contact you: "Here's my number. If things don't work out between you and that guy, call me and I'll take you out to dinner." If she's loyal to her relationship, or simply not interested, she'll throw your contact information away. But if she's interested, and her relationship is on the rocks, she might get in touch after they break up and you've done no harm just trying.

4. Take great care to steer clear of the friend zone. Just because she's in a relationship doesn't mean you can't make your romantic intentions clear, or else you might become the brotherly shoulder she cries on whenever there's trouble in paradise. Continue to remind her that you want to date her, you don't just want to be her friend (that is, you don't want to wait in the wings). And if she seems to be stringing you along, for example, she says she wants you around, but she stays with her boyfriend nonetheless, move on. Unless you're content being someone's backup, don't put yourself in line for being hurt; realize that even if they do break up down the track, she might decide "I don't want to ruin our friendship" or she just might want to be single for a while.

5. Avoid becoming a side dish. If she seems to really like you, demand that she break off the relationship before you do anything with her. If she cheats on him with you, not only is that pretty low on your part, but that brings her entire trustworthiness into question. And if she seems willing to cheat on her boyfriend, you might want to reconsider whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who's ready and willing to violate someone's trust, because next time it could be you at the receiving end of her unfaithfulness.

Tips :

• If you find out she's in a relationship, a flirtatious thing to ask smilingly would be "Is it, by any chance, an open relationship?"
• Best thing to do? Just don't make any advances. Seriously. Just let her be, and wait until mr wrong dumps her.
• Always stay confident. Whether you're asking her out or not, make sure you know who you are and what you like, and that you're not needy for her and will crack into pieces if she rejects you

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Five Fashion Resolutions to Rock in 2011

Step up your style game in the new year! Yep, you have 365 days to get glam. Here’s our advice on how to fab up your look as soon as you flip the calendar to 2011.

Find a trademark

All the classic fashion icons had a trademark, like Coco Chanel's LBD and Audrey Hepburn's ballet flats. Make 2011 your year to find your own signature style. If you're a romantic who loves wearing her heart on her sleeve, make hearts your trademark. Or, keep it simple and stick with paring your fave accessory, like gauzy scarves or cute headbands, with your outfits. You could also make

Break outta your style rut

This may seem to contradict our first resolution, but let us explain. There is a fine line between wearing items that fit your signature style versus going completely overboard and only wearing one item ever. If you’re constantly neutrals, wear a bright accessory for a li'l touch of color. Your goal this year is to stay true to your signature style without being too repetitive.

Go custom

Originality is the key to any adorable outfit. Try not to copy an ensemble you see on the mannequin or in a magazine. Give it your own take and be creative! If you're crafty, there are plenty of DIY tips on how to revamp and old item. Sew some cloth birds on a plain purse, or make a necklace out of buttons. Got a bland blazer? Add a brooch from grandma's collection to the lapel. It might be 2011, but classic vintage pieces are always in.

Look beyond the mall

Avoid twin day forever. Ya know, when you head to school in a cute outfit and find out someone else is wearing the same thing. Sigh—it’s every fashion-lover’s nightmare. If you're tried of being someone's clone, venture into a local boutique or even Salvation Army. We all love the convenience of the mall but if you wanna get one-of-a-kind items, you have to hunt elsewhere.

Shopping? Try everything on!

Ever see something in a store and think, "OMG that dress is so cute! I gotta have it!" and buy it without a giving it a second thought? Then you try it on at home and get bummed out because it's kinda blah. Spare yourself from the dreaded buyer's remorse and try stuff on while you're at the store. What's on the hanger is completely transformed when you put it on your body. The same goes for an item you feel iffy about. It may not be what you had in mind, but you'll be surprised how ah-may-zing you can look once you put it on.

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